Get an Internet Filter — NOW!!


You may be warring with the temptation to view pornography all day, every day, even on weekends and holidays. It does not take a rest, no matter who you are. It is there, ready for you to grab at it, live on the internet. Without an internet filter, it could only get worse for the addict.

Those who don’t, or haven’t suffered from this or any addiction may simply wonder why the addict doesn’t just stop, walk away from it. This is a fool’s question, as anyone who has suffered from any type of addiction can attest. Once caught up in an addiction, the addict is trapped in a way that no non-addict could ever know about. Even when facing the possibility of destroying a relationship, it is still not easy to break free. Being a disorder of the mind, it needs treatment, not just an internet filter, and more than just saying “Walk away.” That’s like asking a fly to just walk off the flypaper.

I have a hunch that you may be unable to resist looking at sexual images when they come across the screen.  You may have a feeling that you need porn rather than desire it, after you come across it.

Then there are other unique signs, signs that aren’t so across the board, that you actually have to look closely at the symptoms to be sure. Spending too much time wrapped up in porn, trying to cut back but not doing so good, letting it slowly encroach upon your day to day life to where it begins to take over, letting it disrupt work, home, school and even your social life, and you feel helpless because you know you have a problem but feel you can’t do anything but submit to it. Having an internet filter, but never installing it. Lastly, you experience unnecessary agitation, even anger, if you can’t get to some porn.

A superior family internet filter is where it the process of gaining control over your behavior begins. You don’t have to throw the computer out the upstairs window to take this step. Nothing more drastic than adding the right internet filter. Talk to your loved ones about this problem, and get them on board with this solution. This is a simple solution, and it is a first step only, but a good first step to achieving freedom.

There are three reasons internet porn is so alluring and addictive:  accessibility, affordability and anonymity.

A filter simply cuts back on the accessibility factor.  Now, you rascals, you’re going to tell me that you can always dismantle the filter.  That may be true.  But if you have a code that you don’t memorize and give it to a trusted friend or a therapist, it will be more difficult to disengage it.  Even if you keep the code written down and placed someplace away from the computer, it buys you time to think and reflect.

Some experts consider sex addiction as an impulse control disorder.  That’s the deal — to learn to reflect and consider rather than just automatically acting on your impulses.  Babies act on impulse.  And surely you’re more mature than that, yes?

 

 

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