Create a Porn-Free Environment/Dorothy Hayden, LCSW


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One of the reasons porn is so alluring is that it’s so accessible (besides being affordable and anonymous).

Once you’ve clearly seen the destructive effects of porn on your life and have determined to get help for treating you’re addiction, the first order of business is limiting accessibility.

Obviously, if you want to quit porn, you will need to get it out of your home, your office, and any other locations where you typically used it.  When I went into recovery in AA 30 years ago, on the second day of meetings-attendance, a support person came home with me and we poured out the booze together.

You’ll get the physical and psychological distance needed to help you break free.  Without porn in your environment, you’re more motivated to get in interested in finding non-sexual pleasurable activities.

Here’s a round-up of the usual tips.

  • Just get the stuff out. Box up tapes, DVD’s videos, CD;s, computer files and cable porn channels.
  • Cancel all subscriptions to Web site porn. Deposit in a dumpster.
  • Change to a family-oriented Internet service provider.
  • Change your e-mail address
  • Install an Internet filter (discussed in another post)
  • Move the computer to a public area in your home.
  • Buy a new hard drive or a new computer
  • You may have to cancel Internet service for a period of time.
  • Cancel memberships at video rental stores.
  • Stay out of R or unrated movies.
  • When traveling, call ahead to have sexual content removed from the TV, or get a room with no TV.
  • If you can avoid it, don’t travel with a laptop.  If you must use a computer, use in only in public places.  Alternatively, leave the computer at home and use the hotel’s business center or local Internet coffee house.  Business trips are a huge trigger for many men, so plan ahead!
  • Go online only when someone else is home.  At work, use the computer only during business hour.  Avoid being alone in the office.
  • Go online for e-mails only.  If you need information or data from the web, let a support person do it.
  • Don’t instant-message anyone who isn’t a friend, support person or family member.
  • Display motivational photos on your computer.  Pictures of your family or a photo of your church or minister will do.  Pick any images that remind you of why you’re doing what you’re doing.
  • Avoid material accessed online with a cell phone, MP3 player, or PDA.  It can be more difficult to block.
  • Tell friends, relatives and coworkers not to send you porn or links to porn.
  • When you must go online, immediately click in to an online support forum for porn addicts.  I recommend http://www.no-porn.com.
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