What to Do When You Want to Quit Porn

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So you’re disgusted with yourself — at the bottom of the pit — and you’re ready to quit porn.  In a cost-benefit analysis, the pain out ways the pleasure.

If you’ve been struggling with porn abuse and Internet sex, you can’t beat this demon alone.  The very nature of addiction implies distortion in your thinking.  You need both the insight that a therapist provides and the accountability that only an objective person can provide.

Please know – change can be a reality IF you take positive action in that direction.

Here are some of the first positive actions you can take after you’ve made the decision that you want change.

  1. Find an accountability partner.  This is a trusted person such as a sponsor or a therapist.  Ideally, you should have a 12-step sponsor and a therapist.  A sponsor is available for you to check in with regarding the changes and commitments you are making.  It would be beneficial if that person has struggled with his own sexual problems and found healing through a 12-step program and/or psychotherapy.
  2. Throw out all pornography.  Tapes, DVD’s videos, CD’s, adult bookstore tokens, computer downloads should be boxed and put in a dumpster at least a mile from your home.  Drop it in and leave it in.
  3. Contact your accountability partner to let him know you have thrown out the porn and commit to not buying more.
  4. Avoid R rated movies.  For people who don’t have sexual problems, these movies are fine.  But right now you’re vulnerable to being triggered.  Avoid the danger places.
  5. Business trips away from home are often a huge trigger.  Call ahead and request that adult movies be blocked in your room.  If at all possible, don’t bring a laptop.  If you  must go online, do so in a public place.  Alternatively, use the hotel business center or a local Internet coffee-house.
  6. Buy and INSTALL porn blocking software.  There are internet filters such as Net Nanny that eliminates access to sexual content.  This is a MUST for those with porn problems who plan on using the Internet again.  Give the access code to your accountability partner or therapist.  Don’t play games and try to defeat the software.
  7. Move your computer(s) to a public place.  Put it in the living room.  If your office computer screen faces away from people walking by, move the screen so others can view what you’re accessing.
  8. Go online for e-mails only.  Let others gather data.  Commit to your accountability partner or therapist that you’ll avoid any unplanned online activity.
  9. Put up photos of your loved ones or family around the computer.

These are the generally acknowledged steps that are recommended as a first plan of action.  These changes may be cumbersome in the beginning.  Make rules for yourself.  In time, rules become habits and these actions will be second nature to you.

In AA terms, you are “putting the plug in the jug”.  Your new routines will be the foundation of the next step — having a recovery plan.

 

http://www.sextreatment.com

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