The Nature of Sex Addiction

The Nature of Sex Addiction

All of my sexually addicted clients get the same things that drugs and alcohol give to chemically dependent individuals. What do they get from it? an intense high, comparable to nothing else in their lives; a way to numb painful feelings such as anger, anxiety or fear; a way to escape stressor inherent in life;…

The Experience of Addiction

Sex Addiction Treatment New York For a Consultation Call 212-673-5717   An addiction is an habitual response and a course of gratification or security.  It is a way of coping with internal feelings and external pressure that  provides the sex addict with predictable satisfaction, but that has concomitant costs.  Eventually those costs outweigh the subjective…

Resources

12-Step Groups  ·       S.A.A. – Sex Addicts Anonymous: National 12-step program encourages participants to define their sex addiction recovery through the boundaries of a “Sex Plan” which is evolved by working with other recovering members. Population is mixed, primarily men, both homosexual and heterosexual with some female attendance.§  http://www.sexaa.org   ·       S.C.A. – Sexual Compulsives Anonymous: 12-step…

Do you Have a Problem with Internet Porn? in a way that is contrary to our values, we keep secrets in the hope that others won’t perceive what we see in ourselves. Reaching out for help takes courage No matter what your addiction is, admitting to yourself that you have a problem that you can’t solve on your own takes a great deal of courage. Sex addiction may be the hardest addiction to admit to. It is an extremely personal and private problem, and the addict fears being loathed, despised or ridiculed. Overcoming this barrier and getting help is an action that should be respected by others, and it’s the first step in recovering your self-respect too. Getting back in touch with the person you want to be Most addicts enter a recovery process because they want to get their lives back on track and recover their self-respect. Self-respect is based on your core values and how you see yourself living up to them. Thus it is your values, the desire to become the person you once believed you were and who you want to be again, that made you reach out for help. Your values are a powerful driving force in your life, and it’s important that you get to know them and understand them. If you are a recovering sex addict, ask yourself what drove you to take the first step towards turning your life around. Identify the core values that were violated by your addiction. Now choose the single value that is more powerful and more meaningful to you than all the rest. Your next step is thinking about how that value would manifest itself in your life. That’s what you’re aiming for. That’s what makes your recovery process so worthwhile. Your values inform your goals and will become your strongest allies in your relapse prevention strategy. You are not a ‘bad’ person No addict is an inherently ‘bad’ person. They may have done things they know are wrong in their pursuit of their chosen high, they may have betrayed themselves and those closest to them, but it is addiction rather than a lack of values that caused this to happen. As part of your recovery, you will try to make amends with those you have wronged, including yourself. You may not be forgiven by the people you have hurt, but it is important that you forgive yourself. Understand that you are leaving the past behind and that you will be living up to your values from now onwards, one day at a time. Recovery from addiction is a very uncomfortable process, but by keeping your values in clear sight, by having the vision of what you are striving to achieve in front of you, you can ease your path. What you are trying to accomplish is worthwhile. You are worthwhile. You are not only recovering your self-respect, you are earning it! About the Author: Dorothy C. Hayden, LCSW, is a psychoanalyst and sex addiction therapist located in Manhattan, New York.  Her book “Total Sex Addiction Recovery-A Guide to Therapy” is considered as ‘recommended reading’ in the field of sex addiction therapy. http://www.sextreatment.com

The importance of values in sex addiction recovery

The Fruits of Sex Addiction Recovery – A Healthy Personality

                                                                                              Dorothy Hayden, LCSW New York, NY 10003 212-673-5717 http://www.sextreatment.com   The Fruits of Recovery– A Healthy Personality If you view the end result of the recovery process exclusively as the cessation of addictive behavior, you’re selling yourself short. Active addiction is merely a symptom of your core problems. You can be free…

An Introduction to Sex Addiction

Reclaim Sexual Sanity:  Find Recovery Now by Calling 212-673-5717 for an Initial Consultation.  See www.sextreatment.com for 35 full-length articles about sex addiction and for details about my private practice. My focus for the blog is going to be therapy for those addicted to sex.   However, posts about addiction in general will continue to be interspersed.   For now, I’m providing…

An Introduction to Sex Addiction Part 2

Reclaim Sexual Sanity:  Find Recovery Now by Calling 212-673-5717 for an Initial Consultation.  See www.sextreatment.com for 35 full-length articles about sex addiction and for details about my private practice. Therapy for Sex Addiction Sex addiction, of course, has nothing to do with sex. Any sexual act or apparent “perversion” has no meaning outside of its psychological,unconscious context. A simple definition of sex addiction is…