The Children of Sex Addiction/Dorothy Hayden, LCSW


Reclaim Sexual Sanity:  Find Recovery Now by Calling 212-673-5717 for an Initial Consultation.  See www.sextreatment.com for 35 full-length articles about sex addiction and for details about my private practice.

 

neglected-boy

The Face of Sex Addiction

  • Childhood emotional pain  from emotional, sexual,physical abuse or from fear of abandonment or rejection.
  • Anxiety and fear from feelings seemly overwhelming and dangerous; panic from trying to stop the pain unsuccessfully; feelings of impotence, unworthiness, shame
  • Desire for a “quick fix” — Desperate need to control feelings
  • Lack of parental empathy and attention causes  impairment in growth; inability to tolerate frustration;  impulsive;  immediate gratification
  • Lack of nurturance, guidance, structure  produces  life-long need to be validated, recognized and approved of;  to receive excessive amounts of attention and praise
  • Chaotic, inconsistent family environment causes child to withdraw into himself, determines not to need anyone because closeness is so dangerous (intimacy disorder)
  • Discovery of a panacea — an immediate, effective relief of distressed internal states

Compulsive sexual behavior is a panacea that produces an internal state that is stimulating, arousing, numbing, or fantasy-like; the addict become addicted to this internal state of being.  However, the best highs get less and less over time, as it takes more of the panacea to get the high.

This phenomenon is called “tolerance”.  Cessation of the panacea, sometimes brings on extreme depression, irritability and boredom, a phenomenon known as “withdrawal”.

With increasing involvement in compulsive sexual behavior, the panacea stops producing a “high” as much as it merely serves to stave off negative feelings and ever-increasing feelings of withdrawal.

In summary, sex addicts use the panacea (1) because the high feels good, (2) to medicate away pain and anxiety and (3) to avoid anxiety of interpersonal interactions.

If you’re interested in treatment, feel free to contact me at dorothyhayden1231@gmail.com for a free 30-minute phone consultation.

See htpp://www.sextreatment.com for 35 articles on sex addiction

sex addiction therapy nyc,  sex addiction treatment nyc,   porn addiction therapy nyc  therapy for sex addiction nyc   treatment for sex addiction nyc    sex addiction therapy    sex addiction treatment

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: