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Impact of Pornography Addiction on Marriage

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It is unfortunate but in many marriages today face the damage from pornography addiction. To help understand where pornography stems from and the impact pornography has on marriage, I have interviewed therapist Jeff King LCSW.

 

Tell me a little bit about yourself. 
“I am I license Specialist Clinical Social Worker and a Certified Sex Addictions Therapist. I have been working with sexual addiction for 10 years and am currently in private practice and started the Centre for Sexual and Relationship in Oct of 2008.”

Where does pornography addiction stem from? 
“Sexual addiction does not occur in a vacuum and does not have one single cause. Sexual addiction is a secrecy disorder and when one starts to keep secrets about their sexual behavior then they develop shame. This shame then leads them to behave in a way that is shameful. That is why the primary treatment for sexual addiction is disclosure and group accountability. Exposure to the internet is a common way in which one becomes sexually addicted. Because they start to view things that no one knows about and that they feel shame about what they are doing. The more they keep this a secret then more addicted they become. …

Online Pornography Addiction

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Various types of sex addictions are prevalent. While some cases are mild, and classified by the constant need for sexual gratification, other cases are so severe that they threaten a person’s relationships with family and friends. Because sex addiction is a hush-hush topic, few understand the gravity of the addiction. Jokingly, some people term themselves as sex addicts. However, an addiction to sex involves more than an enjoyment of sexual relations. In most cases, the addict is so consumed or preoccupied with sex, he or she will go to extreme lengths to fulfill their addiction. Often times, online pornography functions as a tool. Pornography is very addictive. Even though this addiction is common among men, there are a number of women with a constant need for viewing pornography. Regrettably, once an addiction to porn is born, overcoming the problem can be challenging. Even if a person is determined to stop obsessing over pornography, mental images remain imprinted on their brain, which makes the addiction hard to break.

What is Pornography?

Pornography consists of magazines, videos, and websites containing very sexually explicit material. Porn has many forms from soft-core to hardcore. Furthermore, porn addicts can choose from a wide range of …

Addicted to Porn? Freedom is Here!

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What’s the most powerful drug today? Cigarettes? Cocaine? Heroine? Nope. The answer… PORNOGRAPHY. Don’t believe me? Well consider this about porn: it’s available from any computer, free of charge, any time of day, privately, and anonymously. When combined with masturbation, you get an incredible high feeling that engulfs your body and brain. Considering all these factors, PORN IS THE MOST ADDICTIVE DRUG IN THE 21ST CENTURY

I’m guessing you’ve been struggling with porn for years… maybe even decades. Have you tried stopping cold turkey? Have you vowed to never ever to return to your dirty habit, only to come back full force? Just like any highly addictive substance or habit, COLD TURKEY DOESN’T WORK!

I know… I’ve been there and it’s the worst feeling in the world. But finally there is help! Finally there’s a revolutionary program that gets to the root of your problem.

You see, the issue starts with your BRAIN. Did you know that the very circuitry and chemicals that have you HOOKED to porn can also be used to FREE you from porn? This program will show you how to retain and literally rewire your brain so that you aren’t enslaved to pornography.

In all honesty, …

Internet Porn a Lure to Youth in Today’s ‘Look-At-Me’ Culture

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According to the Associated Press, Internet porn sites were visited by more than a third of Internet users in the U.S. in April. That being said, it is little wonder that today’s youth are getting the message that sex of all kinds is in demand, and there is fame and fortune out there to be had. And with today’s technology, virtually anyone who can operate a camera and a computer can participate.

The Associated Press reports that many in today’s culture are calling this embracing of sexuality and provocative exhibitionism among young women sexy and empowering. But others, including mental health professionals, parents and educators, disagree and have some compelling arguments to back their sentiment.

Holly Eglinton, 31, vied for and won a talent search competition to appear on the Internet’s “Naked News” as a newscaster in the buff. According to the Associated Press, she had posted provocative pictures of herself on an Internet networking site, which landed her an audition. Asked about posing nude on the Internet program, Eglinton told the Associated Press that it was freeing, fun and rebellious. “It’s something that sort of suits my personality. I’m kind of an extrovert and a bit of a camera …

When You’re Partner is Addicted to Porn

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First of all, in my honest opinion, I think there is a difference between a person who does porn every now and again, and a guy who is addicted to porn. I have always been one of those women who is very hurt by porn. When I was younger, it would send me into a deep spiral of self hatred, because I felt it was my fault that my partner turned to pornography and that if I could be fit enough, pretty enough, or loving enough there would be no need for my partner to do porn and it would just go away. Now almost forty, I am very aware that sometimes you have to compromise. Statistics show that most men view porn regularly. I still don’t like pornography. It still bothers me at times, but in an effort to compromise, I was willing to overlook a few pictures here and there. I soon realized that for some people, that is not enough. I have finally come up with my own personal definition of what is too much. I think everyone has to determine where his or her line in the sand exists. To me, a picture here and there …

How to Help Your Spouse Recover from Porn Addiction

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A few years ago, a good friend of my wife’s confided in us that her husband was attempting to recover from porn addiction. His use of porn had escalated over the years and didn’t stop after they got married, affecting their emotional and physical relationship with each other. Helping your spouse recover from porn addiction is a long process and can strain your marriage. Here are a few tips to help.

 

This might be a painful process, but you’ll feel better knowing that you stood by your spouse’s side as he or she struggled to recover from porn addiction. Continue to be as understanding as possible when it comes to your physical relationship; however, you must remember that your needs are important, too.

Try Not to Judge

Porn addiction is no different from any other addiction and shouldn’t be treated differently. You might feel negatively about the addiction, but your spouse still needs your love and support. If you find that you are becoming overwhelmed, walk away from the situation and try to get some perspective. You and your spouse will probably need some time off to deal with your mutually exclusive fears and worries, so don’t look at it …

Female Porn Addicts: Pornography Addiction is Not Just a Man’s Disorder

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Watching a soft-core porn movie for entertainment. Checking out a pornography site out of curiosity. Watching porn with your husband to improve your marriage. It starts out innocently enough, but these actions have resulted in 17% of women (including Christian women) becoming porn addicts.

 

When a woman’s porn addiction is exposed, some social circles scoff and ridicule her worse than they would a man who exposes his addiction. Lets dispense of society’s belief that decent Christian women are above watching porn and only “loose” women are into that sort of thing. This is not a man’s disorder anymore. The number of women and teenage girls suffering from pornography addiction is growing. Seventy percent of women who access porn keep it a secret. This percentage will be the next generation of female porn addicts.

Female porn addicts are more than likely to act out what they see with a partner than male porn addicts. Most women fall into porn addiction out of loneliness. Others fall into it as a side affect from sexual abuse.

I’m A Female Porn Addict. Where Can I Find Help?

There are two websites that are for women and by women concerning pornography addiction.

Dirty Girls Ministries …

Problem of Porn

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How likely is it for a man to become a pedophile? I’ve had to think about this question a lot. I have needed to think about this for a number of reasons.

 

I have chosen to be in a community with men who are sex offenders. I have had to look at my own past and wonder what pushes these men to do things I have come to hate with a venomous nature. I have had to wonder at the gross implications of a national and international sex trade that deals children – children as young as four.

Out of the conversations with the sex offenders I know, I have learned that each of them had been abused sexually as a child. This abuse led them to medicate through the use of pornography. The nature of medicating with a destructive force is that the one being medicated will eventually need more and more extreme doses. This leads to the rape of our friends, our mothers, our daughters and our children.

Throughout my life, I have had to face the reality of what pornography can do to a person’s perception. I am not writing this as a man who has lived …

The Problem with Porn – when All the Little “Warnings” Suddenly Make Sense

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So, I believe I left off with explaining to you that he is sweet, kind, gentle, and always considerate of me. Well, except when he’s feeding his need to use porn. Except when he’s being selfish and can only think of getting a fix. I believe I intimated that his use of porn, his drug of choice, was far beyond what I believe anyone would see as “normal”. I’m not sure what “normal” is but I’m pretty sure when a man plans his daily routines around how and when he can fit some “me” time in, he’s got an issue. I’m pretty sure that when a nearly 50-something man’s use of porn is almost daily, sometimes two or three times a day, and is often throughout the day at work, that this use is not “normal”.

I also believe that when a man and woman have a good relationship and when they have as much fun being intimate as we do, needing that much extracurricular activity is not normal. Do I believe that men “look” when the opportunity presents itself, yes absolutely, I do. I believe that men are wired to automatically notice the beautiful woman sitting across from them …

Why I Hate Torture Porn

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A recent issue of Rue Morgue had an interesting editorial on torture porn. Movies mentioned were The Butcher, Hostel and The Devil’s Rejects. The editorial spoke out against the “genre,” claiming, in not so many words that it’s just cruel and not entertaining or artistic.

I hate the term.

Torture porn is a lazy way to describe a movie. We know what torture is. We know what porn is. To describe movies as such (especially Rob Zombie’s film, which isn’t even a horror film) is to totally misinterpret a movie’s meaning. (Now that torture porn is such a huge deal, however, some of these critics may be responsible for the creation of such films.) It’s as if these critics are saying that a film that involves torture can’t have any artistic integrity or even entertainment value (as crass as that seems). What was really surprising about this editorial, however, was the inclusion of Zombie’s film.

The Devil’s Rejects is not a horror film. It’s a film that has horrific elements and scenes, but to consider it in the same family as something like Hostel is misguided at best.

When cinematic history looks back at this period of horror films, I …