Problem of Porn

How likely is it for a man to become a pedophile? I’ve had to think about this question a lot. I have needed to think about this for a number of reasons.

 

I have chosen to be in a community with men who are sex offenders. I have had to look at my own past and wonder what pushes these men to do things I have come to hate with a venomous nature. I have had to wonder at the gross implications of a national and international sex trade that deals children – children as young as four.

Out of the conversations with the sex offenders I know, I have learned that each of them had been abused sexually as a child. This abuse led them to medicate through the use of pornography. The nature of medicating with a destructive force is that the one being medicated will eventually need more and more extreme doses. This leads to the rape of our friends, our mothers, our daughters and our children.

Throughout my life, I have had to face the reality of what pornography can do to a person’s perception. I am not writing this as a man who has lived a well and good life. I basically grew up on porn, from early puberty to about a year ago; even now I fall back into the addictive nature of porn. After years of delving into the destructive patterns of pornography, I have had to spend the last couple years fighting the manipulation it has caused in my own thinking, in my own ability to recognize my heart.

I know this all sounds like an opinion to anyone who reads it, but I have had many discussions on the power of pornography in a person’s life and across the board, from sex offenders to saints, porn leaves a track in your mind that pushes you to think of men and women in certain ways.

A friend of mine, when I asked him why porn is wrong, said it is the opposite of art. He said porn takes something beautiful, a person, and debases them to the simplicity of flesh and blood, their body. It strips from the beautiful human the mind, emotion, and soul. How can I look at a woman and only see their flesh? Doesn’t this disturb you? The vastness of the porn industry and the plentiful nature of pornography is a deep problem within our society. Can you imagine what happens when a society is capable of stripping all personality from a person, what is left? The body. From this position it is only a few small steps from using that body as a product, as an item.

I have, as an intellectual pursuit, tried to discover the causes of human trafficking, mainly sex trafficking. I say an intellectual pursuit because the horrors of feeling what happens in sex trafficking is paralyzing; it pushes me to the limits of my own emotional capabilities. Men, all over the world, will purchase the use of a child of any age, do whatever they want and will leave, taking everything they can while giving nothing. How can we stand and not despair when faced with a society that thinks what they pursue and propagate sexually does not have an impact on our generation and the generations to follow? Can you imagine a world where our children are used for sex as a norm? It is happening.

We fail to realize the extent to which porn affects us. We fail to discuss what it means to be human, we fail to discuss that when a woman has sex for money it is a gross destruction of humanity as a whole.

I strongly believe that when we, as a society and as humanity, stop using porn as entertainment and stop propagating it as a good thing, we will see an end to the raping of our children. Even if you feel porn does not affect you how it has many others, and me, you must look deeply into your own heart, your own existence, and it will be hard to deny what it has done to you. If you discover that it does not have an adverse affect, I still beg you to wonder at what it is doing to those around you, what it promotes.

If I had not discovered the horrifying reality of sex trafficking, the enslavement of human beings – mainly women and children – for the sexual gratification of men, I would have lived my life in a forced ignorance.

I do not want to think about the implications of sex trafficking, and I do not want to think about the causes of such a business. I do not want to think about these things because once I do, I must do something or be as guilty as the men who watched a holocaust happen within their own country.

In the end, no laws will ever succeed in the abolishment of sex trafficking, only a deep change in how our society views sex.

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